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I don’t know what is going on for you or what’s causing your stress, but I suspect that you don’t feel in control of your life right now.

The reality is that much of life is out of our control. By its very nature, life is made up of all manner of experiences and feelings. There will be joy, pain, happiness, sadness, confusion, clarity, struggle and ease. It will continue to twist and turn and every now and then it might literally side-swipe us.

With life sometimes seemingly doing its own thing, it can be easy to forget that we have a choice in what we bring in response to it. That’s the bit that is in our control but we forget that. We waste time and energy on things that we can do nothing about. In the name of your own sanity, I urge you to interrupt that habit.

Taking control of your life is about owning it. It is about accepting what is in your control and letting go of what isn’t. It’s about letting go of what you think you should be doing, or could be doing, and focusing on what you are doing. Take full ownership of what you bring to life. Own your state of being, your thoughts, your words, your choices and your actions. Every one of them. Don’t blame them on anything or anyone else ever again. Why? Because that’s the most self-empowering, life-changing thing you can do for yourself.

As you reflect on this, don’t beat yourself up about what isn’t working. Don’t waste time and energy focused on what anyone else is or isn’t doing either. Just focus on you and your life, as it is right now. So often we spend time and energy focused on what isn’t in our control, on the what-ifs. Don’t. Not right now, anyway. The best use of your time and energy right now is to focus fully on you. What you do. Or what you don’t. From now on, take full responsibility for what you can actually do something about.

# The hack

Take full responsibility for your state of being, your thoughts, your words, your choices and your actions. Don’t judge them, beat yourself up about them or get disheartened by them – simply own them, exactly as they are.