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Many boys become painfully awkward by the time they are in secondary school. They seem ashamed of being male, big and full of hormones. (The media often portrays males as rapists, murderers, or inadequate fools, so a boy may easily feel quite bad about himself as a masculine being.)

Mothers can do a lot to overcome this. I’ve heard beautiful comments from mothers to their sons: telling them from the age of about ten and upwards, ‘Wow, you are a great looking guy!’ when they try on their new clothes; or, ‘The girl who marries you is going to be so lucky’ when they do a good job around the house; and ‘I really enjoy your company’, ‘You’re interesting to talk to’, and ‘You have a really great sense of humour’. From these comments, the boy learns what girls like, and becomes more able to approach them in a relaxed and equal way.