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JANUARY 16

BEING NONJUDGMENTAL

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“How much easier it is to be critical than to be correct.”

Benjamin Disraeli

My pain can make me very judgmental toward others if I allow it to. Having judgments against others is a way of putting my own expectations upon them, instead of accepting them as they are. If a person does not behave, speak, or think the way I believe they should, then perhaps there are flaws inside myself that I need to take a closer look at.

I cannot expect others to instinctively know how my pain is affecting me at any given moment. People I may judge as simply insensitive to my pain may be going through problems of their own—and what a wonderful opportunity that might be for me to get outside myself and help them. But if I’m too busy judging them, I miss it.

By being nonjudgmental, and by accepting others as they are instead of expecting them to fulfill my needs, I have an easier time in recovery from both my addiction and my chronic pain.

Judging others makes my pain worse. Pain recovery is being free from judging others and instead practicing acceptance and love.