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JANUARY 21

HONESTY

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A lie is really just a timesaving device, and if it makes me look better than the truth would, so much the better. If it gets me whatever I want and helps me avoid some unpleasant reality, that’s best of all. At least that’s what I used to think.

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There are lies of commission, and lies of omission. When I don’t tell you how much I need your help, that’s a lie of omission. That’s dishonest.

Today I am honest about my needs, my limitations, my expectations, and my capabilities. I do what I can do today, to the best of my ability, but I ask for help when a task is beyond me. When I was in active addiction, instead of allowing others to help me, I would take on tasks even though I knew they would overwhelm me, because I did not want to appear weak.

I am learning that to ask for help is not a sign of weakness. In the process of being honest in my relationships, I open up to the possibility of getting help from others. I give others the opportunity to be of service. I focus on being honest about my physical limitations, knowing today that they do not make me weak. Not being honest about them does.

I am honest with someone today about my physical pain, what I may need help with, and how I’m feeling. In doing so, I give those around me the power and the choice to help me or not, but I let go of the results and focus only on being honest.