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Obviously, to answer this question you need feedback, and the first step in getting feedback is to get a sense of how your self‐perception, or how you see yourself, differs from your reputation, or how others see you. This type of feedback is important because we can be blind to other people’s reaction to us. For example, most people think they are good listeners, but very often that is not the case. Research shows that 90 percent of people who drive cars think they are above average drivers, which, of course, is mathematically impossible. Without some sort of external reality check, it is difficult for people to identify the ways in which they can improve.

Getting feedback from others can provide proof of the necessity of changing specific behaviors on one or all of the four dimensions of EQ: self‐awareness, self‐management, social awareness, and relationship management.

In order to gain the best idea of where the differences lie between your self‐perception and your reputation, you should use some sort of 360‐degree feedback assessment that takes into account the four dimensions of EQ such as the Emotional Intelligence Appraisal – Multi‐Rater & 360° Editions available for purchase at https://www.talentsmart.com/products/emotional‐intelligence‐appraisal‐mr.php.

You can also work with a professional coach, which is expensive, or work with a colleague or learning partner whose opinion you trust and who would be willing to talk over how you are doing on a regular basis.⁶