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If you are reading these words right now, chances are that this book was given to you by a woman who loves you. Perhaps it was your wife, your lover, a close friend, your ex-girlfriend, your sister-in-law, but definitely someone who wants you to be happy and successful in your relationships.

If your partner gave you this book:

She isn’t saying that you are the problem.

She isn’t saying she is upset with you.

She isn’t saying that you aren’t doing it right.

She isn’t complaining or making you feel wrong.

She isn’t implying that she’s perfect and you’re the one who’s messed up.

She isn’t insinuating that it’s all your fault.

She isn’t alleging that you’re stupid and can’t figure this stuff out for yourself.

If your wife or girlfriend gave you this book, she is simply saying that she loves you. She wants things to be better, she wants your relationship to last, she wants to make you happy, and she feels you might get some information from this book that will help you act in ways that will allow her to be more of what you want her to be! Be happy that someone cares about you this much and is reaching out rather than shutting down.

If someone other than your partner gave you this book, know that she, or he, is a true friend who wants the best for you.

If you found your own way to this book, it is because you love women and want to make your relationships with them easier, full of more joy and less stress. I applaud you for being a man of vision. If you are already involved with someone, she is lucky indeed to have a man who cares enough to want to become a better partner and lover. And if you haven’t found your true love yet, believe me, she is going to be happy and grateful when she meets you.

Perhaps at this point in your reading, despite how much sense all of this is (hopefully!) making, you hear a familiar, rebellious voice in your head that says:

“Jeez, another of my wife’s books. She’s always trying to ‘fix’ me, like I’m screwed up or something. I’m sure it’s going to tell me that all the problems in our relationship are my fault, that I need to change. I don’t need this! Why should I listen to some other woman I don’t even know telling me what to do? What a waste of time.”

Here’s my response:

This book is going to make you feel smarter and more competent, not stupid and incompetent.

It’s going to make you feel less out of control, and more in control.

It’s going to give you more power over your life, not ask you to give up your power.

And the small amount of time you spend reading it will be nothing compared to the amount of time you will save because you will be having less arguments, less hassles, and less unhappy moments.