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Here are some things I’d like you to know about me:

First of all, I love men. I have loved them all my life. If I didn’t, I’d have written a book titled Men: Who Needs Them? or It’s All His Damn Fault, rather than What Women Want Men to Know! Instead, I wrote this book because I realize that although men continue to make sincere efforts to figure us out, it’s not always a simple matter for you to understand the woman in your life. And perhaps it will be easier to hear about what women want and need regarding love, sex, and intimacy from me, a woman you don’t know but one who has talked to thousands of other women, rather than hearing it from your own partner.

So think of me as a translator, a mediator of sorts in a peace process, sitting across the table from you and saying, “Look, if you want to get such and such results in your relationship with your wife, I suggest you try doing this, because I can guarantee she will not only love it, but will complain less,” or “I know her request for such and such seems silly, and you can’t imagine that something so trivial will make a difference, but trust me – I’ve talked to her – and it will,” or “If you want to avoid turning her into an emotional wreck, I propose you work on eliminating this certain phrase from your vocabulary, because whenever she hears it, she’s going to overreact and you won’t like the outcome.” Do I believe the information I’m going to share with you in the following chapters can make an enormous difference in your love life? You bet I do. Give it a chance, and I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

Second, this book is written by me, a woman, about what women want men to know. Isn’t that the way it should be? If you’re going to learn about what women want you to know in the areas of communication, intimacy, love, and sex, shouldn’t your guide be a woman? What good is it hearing what some other man thinks about what women want? Naturally I am biased, but I do believe that this book contains information you’d never learn if it was written by a man. Women have confided in me, and told me things about themselves, about their needs, and about sex that I am sure they would never have revealed to a man. I think you will be intrigued by what they have to say.

Third, if you’re thinking, “Why did you just write about what men are supposed to learn and do differently? It seems so one-sided. What about women? Shouldn’t they be trying to understand our needs, and make us happy too?” Well, I couldn’t agree with you more. That’s why several years ago, I wrote Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know. It taught women all about men’s likes and dislikes regarding love, sex, communication, and suggested ways women could adjust their behavior in and out of the bedroom to improve their relationships with their husband or boyfriend. Millions of women read Secrets, and when they shared it with their partners, the men concluded that I was, indeed, their ally. So each time you read something in the following chapters that makes you want to say, “But what about what SHE does wrong?,” just remember – it’s all in the other book!