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Before we go on, there’s something very important that I need to share with you, something I reiterate to men in the next section: I love men! I have loved men my whole life, and despite a very substantial collection of heartaches and disappointments, I have never stopped loving them or given up on them or on relationships. So this book is not about what’s wrong with men; it is not designed to chastise or criticize them for not knowing how to love us properly. Rather, its intention is to invite men to see and understand women as they never have before. I have a reputation for knowing how to get through to my male readers, students, and seminar attendees, and I worked very hard in writing this book to express information in a way I hope men will really hear. You see, I understand how difficult it is for men to go where we want them to go emotionally, to open up to the kind of intimacy we crave, and to understand the heart and soul of women. And it is out of that love and compassion that I approach working with men, and it is out of that love and compassion that this book is written.

Recently, I bumped into an old friend in a health food store. I asked how she and her husband were doing, and we spent a few moments catching up on each other’s lives. “What are you working on these days?” she questioned. “A new book called What Women Want Men to Know,” I replied.

“Really? That’s fabulous!” she said excitedly. “I can’t wait to get it and give it to Donald. I mean, he’s a great guy, but, well, he’s still a man, right?”

A male customer happened to be standing next to us during this exchange, and when he heard my friend’s comments, he shot us a nasty look, as if to say, “You women just love putting men down.” As he walked by shaking his head, my girlfriend and I exchanged a smile, because we knew that his interpretation of what had occurred was totally incorrect – she hadn’t been putting her husband down at all. She adores her husband. Rather, she’d been describing a reality most women naturally understand – that even the best men are still MEN, not women, and for that reason alone, they can use a little help understanding the females in their lives.

The harsh truth is this: Just because men love us does not mean they can know us. They inhabit a very different world than we do, and as we will see throughout this book, our world often appears mysterious, confusing, and contradictory to them.

I think this is why often even the best-intentioned man who deeply loves his partner appears to simply not persist at trying to understand her. To put it bluntly, many men just give up, not because they don’t care, but because they feel they are certain to fail at gaining any glimmer of true cognition of our complex nature, and since men don’t like failing, they often opt for not trying at all.

I wrote What Women Want Men to Know to make it easier for men to try to succeed at understanding and loving us, to make them better boyfriends and better husbands, better companions and better lovers. And I wrote this book to make it easier for you to succeed at expressing your needs, explaining your nature, and sharing your heart with the man you love.