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You think we aren’t independent enough.

You think we are too needy.

You think we are insecure.

You think we want to control you by making you give us your time and attention.

WHAT WOMEN WANT MEN TO KNOW:

Women think of love as our job.

That is why we always want to work on it, because we feel if things are not going well in our relationship, it means that somehow we have failed to do our job properly.

So when we are trying to talk to you about “us” or get you to make plans to spend time together, or when we seem to be too “into” you, it’s NOT because we are insecure or needy; it’s NOT because we are trying to control you. It’s because we are trying to create the best relationship possible. It’s because we are trying to improve and develop our most valued investment. It’s because we are doing what our heart tells us is our job – to put love first.

WHAT WOMEN WOULD LIKE MEN TO DO:

We would love it if you expressed your appreciation for how much attention we put into wanting to create a wonderful relationship, rather than criticizing us for how focused we are on it.

We would love it if you let us know you value our dedication and cherish our devotion as beautiful qualities rather than thinking we are neurotic.

We would love it if, when we try to plan time with you, you remind yourself we are doing this because we love you, NOT because we’re trying to control your time.

#2 What Women Do When We Put Love First:

We always want to work on the relationship.

We want to continually improve things, to become closer and more intimate.

We want to know if there is a problem, and then we want to fix it.

We persist in trying to find out how a man is feeling when we suspect he may not be happy with us.