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Manifesting means creating what wasn’t there before. Women love to manifest. The very act of starting with nothing and ending up with something thrills us in a deep pan of our being.

WHAT WOMEN WANT MEN TO KNOW:

Women like to manifest beauty, celebration, connection, and love that did not exist before. When we do this, we feel a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose.

This joy we experience in manifesting expresses itself in big and small ways every day:

We hear that a friend is coming to town and quickly create an impromptu party around her visit.

We find ourselves with a weekend free of obligations and plan a last-minute excursion to the country for ourselves and the man we love.

We share some of our deep feelings with our partner while walking in the park, and all at once what was just a stroll transforms into a sweet experience of intimacy.

We buy a little table, place some pictures on it, and turn what was an empty corner of a room into an attractive area.

We receive a necklace as a gift, and build our whole outfit around it when we get dressed for work the next day.

We overhear our husband mention to a friend a computer game he’s interested in, and when he’s at work that day, we search the Internet until we find the product and order it for him as a surprise.

When women manifest, they can create a special moment, an experience for others to share, an improvement in the environment, something beautiful to look at, or something that brings another person joy.

Another way women manifest is in creating and re-creating ourselves. All you need to do for proof of this is to walk into any major department store and look around at the cosmetics department. There before you are dozens upon dozens of counters, each displaying hundreds of shades of eye shadow and lipstick, powder and blush, along with innumerable bottles of perfume, body lotion, and every other potion you could imagine. In front of those counters are hundreds of women trying on makeup, testing new scents, and enjoying themselves immensely. Men imagine this scene and roll their eyes, perhaps concluding that women are vain or superficial. But what’s happening in this store isn’t vanity – it’s creativity. It is women creating a look, an image, using their own face as a canvas as they become the artist.

It is the same with clothing, or jewelry, or any of the other ways women adorn our bodies – these female pastimes are all means for the female creative urge to express itself. This is why so many women love to shop, even when we don’t buy anything – we are doing research for our next creative undertaking!

These are things we and other women understand, but have a difficult time explaining to men. Why, for instance, do we need new makeup when we already own a drawerful of it? And must we really have so many different shades of lipstick? I mean, how many kinds of red are there? Women know the answers to these questions, of course: There are many kinds of red, and yes, they are all different, and yes, we need new makeup once in a while, just as an artist needs new paints and brushes.

Last week I decided to treat myself to a manicure and pedicure in a little beauty salon down the street from my house. I sat there in a chair watching all the other female customers and concluded that this salon was a hotbed of female creativity, a perfect example of what I’ve written about in this section of the book. Each woman who came in took time to carefully look over the hundreds of bottles of polish, seriously examining this one and that one before she chose the color that would be applied to her fingernails or toenails. Not just any red would do this week – it had to be a blue-red, as opposed to a fire engine red, or a coral red. Or maybe since last week it was red, this week it would be a dark chocolate color. Or for fun, icy blue! The nails had to be shaped just so, perhaps square or oval or round – each woman definitely had her preference. Any man who ever thought women were wishy-washy or indecisive should come to a beauty salon, where after witnessing the precision with which women choose their nail polish color and shape, he would change his mind forever!

What is it that a woman is actually doing in the beauty salon? She is turning her hands and feet into a work of art, decorating them for the enjoyment of herself and the man who might happen to have the good fortune to gaze upon her shimmering toenails. She is taking a few moments out of her busy day to express her creativity by choosing that hot pink polish. She is manifesting: Where there once were dull, boring toes, now there are exciting, sexy toes!