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Perhaps this question seems unnecessary to you. As a friend of mine put it, “Darling, sacrifice is my middle name!” There are several reasons women sacrifice themselves so readily with men.

Men expect us to put ourselves second. They’ve been trained for thousands of years to think of women as second-class citizens, as less important. After all, we live in a world where, in many countries, women still have to walk behind their man on the street as a sign of subservience. Is it any wonder, then, that men expect us to be the one to sacrifice?

We’ve been trained as women to put ourselves second. Many of us watched our mothers and grandmothers sacrifice their talents, interests, dreams and careers in order to be a support system for our fathers. We’ve been taught that putting ourselves first is “selfish.”

We glamorize sacrifice as some kind of achievement, rather than going out and making our real dreams come true. It’s so much easier, and less personally challenging, to say: “Well, I would have gotten my degree and become an attorney, but I wanted to be there for Henry when he was in law school, so I decided to make the sacrifice.”