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1. Hiding your competence kills the passion in your relationship. When we diminish our accomplishments and hide our excellence from the men in our lives, we think we’re going to make ourselves less threatening and therefore more attractive to the man we love, but in reality, the opposite occurs:

MEN ARE TURNED ON BY COMPETENCE AND TURNED OFF BY WEAKNESS

Men love competence in women. They are trained to be competent themselves, and recognizing it in someone else makes them feel attracted to that person. During my research for this book, I interviewed hundreds of men, and almost all of them agreed that a woman who exudes self-confidence is very appealing. The men respect these women and take them more seriously.

Here’s the irony – women think that hiding their magnificence and acting humble is going to get a man to love them more, when the truth is, this kind of behavior kills the passion in the relationship.

2. When you are in the habit of hiding your competence from men, you end up hiding it from yourself as well. The saying “out of sight, out of mind” definitely holds true for Mistake #4. The more you minimize your accomplishments to others, the less you remember them yourself, until eventually you lose touch with your own magnificence.