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All of these warning signs add up to the same thing: not maintaining your dignity as a woman. That means:

Allowing yourself to be treated in ways you wouldn’t want your daughter to be treated by a man.

Not sticking up for yourself when you know you should.

Living in fear of criticism or disapproval from your partner.

Settling for less than the amount of love and caring you know you deserve.

EACH TIME YOU GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO A MAN BY ALLOWING HIM TO TREAT YOU DISRESPECTFULLY OR UNLOVINGLY, YOU LOSE RESPECT AND LOVE FOR YOURSELF

This creates what I call a Negative Self-Esteem Cycle. Here’s how it works: You allow a man to get away with mistreating you – maybe he calls you names, or refuses to comfort you when you’re upset, or acts like an angry child when you try to talk about the relationship, or is insensitive to your feelings in some way. You don’t stick up for yourself, and this results in your feeling upset, depressed, and bad about yourself. When you feel bad about yourself, your self-confidence decreases. And when your self-confidence is low, the next time that man mistreats you, you will have even less courage to stand up for yourself, and the cycle repeats itself over and over.

The Negative Self-Esteem Cycle

There is only one way to break this endless cycle: Stand up for yourself and maintain your dignity; do not allow yourself to be treated with less love and respect than you know you deserve. When you do this, you feel good about yourself, and in turn, your self-confidence increases. The next time you aren’t treated well, you will own your power rather than giving it away.