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Switching off the emotional sphere. There are people who separate themselves from their emotions and live as if they don’t feel fear. If a person switches off his emotions, he agrees with himself: “There is nothing important in life to worry very much.” Accordingly, such people have no reason to really want something or to be very happy. The result is a computer mode when you logically decide what you need and what you don’t need. On the one hand, it helps you live more calmly, because you are not involved in your experiences, but at the same time your life is losing its color. In this case, a person does not understand his fears, he does not notice that he is experiencing fear, the mind blocks these states.

Phobic model of behavior. Such people feel their fears and perceive them as a trigger to give up doing anything. Even if fears are realized, they stop a person from acting. Internal doubts and thinking over all possible scenarios up to the worst, all possible negative consequences (punishments) capture the brain of such people. A lot of energy is spent on this, while the body is prostrated in fear, and actions are not born.

Counter-phobic model of behavior. Such people feel, but do not realize their fears, perceive fear as a command to action. The desired goal is to free oneself from fears that are constantly prostrating and bothering from within. If such a person is asked whether he is scared, he will always answer: “Of course not”. Subconsciously, he creates dangerous situations in his life in order to cope with them and say to himself: “I am not afraid of anything.” At the moment when it is possible to overcome fear and the first dangerous step has been taken, you experience very intense euphoria, at this very moment you feel freedom from fear, so you strive again and again to fill your life with similar events.

People with this pattern of behavior love dangerous, extreme sports. At the moments of extreme peak, hormones are produced and create a feeling of euphoria. The body perceives the unknown situation as dangerous, and throws out all the hormones just to mobilize and anesthetize as much as possible. In such situations the hormonal cocktail will consist of adrenaline, norepinephrine, endorphin, serotonin, dopamine. Thus, a model of behavior is creating “I will always overcome dangers and it will be cool”. Many people consider this type of drive as fullness and brightness of life. Not being able to appreciate other less intensive, but diverse emotions.