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Too many words surrounding your directions are an invitation to distraction. Your direction loses focus; your child loses sight of what you want; and you are likely to end up in an argument about some extraneous detail. Save extra words, criticisms, and rationales for their own occasions.

Mom: “Josh, what are you doing playing games in the morning? You've been late for school three times this month and you're going to be late again. How many times do I have to tell you! You can't play games before school in the morning. You have to get ready and out the door! Do you want to be late for school again?”

What is wrong with this direction? And, what, exactly, does Mom want Josh to do, anyway? Let's rewind and try it again.

Mom walks up to Josh and stands between him and the TV screen. She touches him gently on the knee, looks him in the eye, and smiles at him: “Josh, time for school! Grab your backpack and be on your way now, please.”

She continues standing there calmly.