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I have noticed lately how people are getting increasingly interested in the phenomenon of narcissism. But what is there to say on the matter that has not been said before? It is obvious that narcissists are troublesome and dangerous to their close ones.

Among this choir, there are yet voices that are not only willing to diagnose and condemn narcissism but also tell the story behind the psychological drama determining narcissists' character and the suffering they are prone to. I will write about narcissism from this point of view. But I would like to stress the essential: whatever psychological constitution we are characterized by, we are much more than our diagnoses, features of the character, and adaptation abilities. We are even more than the suffering that lies at the heart of all this. Thus, drawing on the character, the reasons behind it, coping strategies of a narcissist, I would ask you to see an individual behind all this. Not larger or smaller, not better or worse than anybody not sharing said characteristics.

What is more, this book is not just about narcissists. It is about their “secret” order: about those who barely resemble self-centered egoists. On the contrary, they are very-very “shy”. Unconfident, full of doubt, attacking themselves in response to any blunder or mistake. Worn-out and exhausted by the demands placed on themselves. And at the same time claiming to be strong, flawless, and being able to handle everything perfectly. Such hidden, or, in other words, deficient narcissism has a variety of manifestations, which I would attempt to present clearly as a whole picture, starting from the origins…