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There are very few people who haven’t experienced the pain and disappointment that accompany lack of confidence, but let’s take a moment to remind ourselves of the price we can pay. The following list will probably jog some memories for most of us.

We feel:

• isolated and lonely

• acutely embarrassed and awkward

• frightened and powerless

• physically sick and tense

• in awe of confident people

• worthless, useless and insignificant

• guilty and to blame

• pessimistic; that there’s no point in trying

• depressed and apathetic

• misunderstood

• let down because we see life passing us by

• resentful and embittered.

In some people these feelings may be obvious, in others they may be well-concealed under a brash veneer of apparent success and self-confidence. As a therapist I have been in the privileged position of hearing many people reveal these kinds of feelings for the first time to anyone. Many people do not admit them to themselves until they face a crisis which confronts them with the reality of their life; often this crisis is their impending death, when life is literally about to pass them by. Perhaps some people are satisfied with the hope that their life on earth may reap them rewards in the Kingdom of Heaven, but the majority of us want more out of this life.