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We will notice that confident people behave as though:

They love themselves – and they don’t mind us knowing that they care for themselves.

They understand themselves – and continue to wonder about themselves as they grow and develop.

They know what they want – and are not afraid to keep setting new goals for themselves.

They think positively – and don’t feel overwhelmed by problems.

They behave skilfully – and know which behaviour is appropriate for each individual situation.

We tend to feel good in the company of confident people because:

We feel secure because we know where we stand with them. They are open and genuine. If they are feeling good, they let us know; if they are feeling cross or anxious, they will also let us know. We do not have to worry about what they might be thinking about us, or about the situation we are in.

They don’t depend on ‘putting down’ other people in order to feel powerful, so we can more easily trust that they will be fair and will not abuse us.

They will encourage confidence in us because they prefer the company of confident people.

They do not set themselves up as being perfect and are always willing to acknowledge their own weaknesses and mistakes.

They are often lively because their energy is precious to them and they use it selectively and with great care.

They can also be peaceful and relaxed because they do not feel they constantly have to prove themselves through their words and actions.

They will give us a sense of optimism, because they will think creatively about problems rather than spending hours moaning about them.