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There may be times when you have not been fair—times when you made your decisions based upon anger and emotional volatility. If this is the case, you need to rectify the situation immediately. It is one thing to issue a fair decision and quite another to project your hostilities onto your child. Children will have great respect for a parent who admits he or she was wrong. They will see it as an act of bravery and take a lesson from an excellent role model. To see a parent as imperfect is to see a parent who is human. Apologizing for an oversight or an angry outburst and reassessing your teen’s request in their favor will be appreciated and remembered.

There are some parents who are afraid to admit failure, who see failing as a weakness, and believe that making a mistake means being vulnerable. There is no shame in making a mistake; the shame lies only in the pretense of perfection. Children who believe their parent is perfect are doomed to failure. Instinctively knowing they will never be able to attain perfection, they will embrace defeat. Perfection or the pretense of perfection causes anxiety and unhappiness for everyone, to no good end. Let your imperfection be seen and use it to your advantage; an apology from a parent is its own lesson in humility.