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The teenage passage is not without scars. Often parents have a desire to “rescue” their children, hoping to insulate them from painful experiences. This is not only unrealistic, but it interferes with your teenager’s ability to learn how to make better decisions, develop coping skills, and prioritize those things most important in life. Allowing your son or daughter to make their own mistakes is part of separating, and this, of course, is the most difficult part of parenting a teenager.

It is difficult to discard the early years of bedtime stories and goodnight kisses; those times were as important to your children then as giving them space and responsibility is now. Before you allow them to wander too far away from the proverbial apron strings, they must be in possession of a blueprint of life, created by both of you. That blueprint must include the basic principles of manners, decision making, ethics and conduct based upon the value system and moral philosophy that is fundamental in your family. Though these values are individualized and unique to your family, they also serve as a moral compass to most families. For example, the right to be safe from physical or emotional pain is a universal standard, as are integrity, trust, forthrightness, and compassion for the human condition. Many of these standards cannot simply be taught by verbal instruction, but rather must be transmitted through modeling and imprinting. If your behavior is one of respect for others, it is likely your teenager will adopt that philosophy as well.