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Eventually, the mind recovers enough to raise its intellectual voice, and we start negotiating with life, a partner, a boss, a higher power, or just ourselves. Sometimes, we promise to behave better in exchange for a feeling of security instead of grief—“I'll be a more loving person and never get mad,” “I'll never drink again,” or “I'll pray every day.” Other times, we hope to replay the events that occurred in ways that save us from suffering—“If only I hadn't gone to that party,” “If only I had looked into his room when I noticed his door ajar,” “If only I had forced him to go to the doctor.” More than anything, we want some comfort even though we know a different outcome is unattainable.