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Who makes you the most jealous? What is it about this person that really gets you? Is she or he making more money? Exercising greater power? Expressing more talents? Having more fun? Fostering a healthier, fitter body? Having greater closeness in an intimate relationship? Name this quality you want more of right now. For example, I was jealous of Jack Canfield's level of successfully fulfilling his purpose in his work. Thus, I wanted to live my purpose more successfully.

Once you have named the quality you want more of, ask your imagination to give you a number on a scale of one to ten (ten being the most) of how much you are manifesting this quality currently. Whatever number pops into your mind first, receive it, letting go of any desire to edit.

Imagine standing in the number you received and, with eyes closed or open, looking to the “ten” where your imagination shows you an image of you speaking and acting in a way that fully embraces this quality. By looking to the “ten” from where you are, you can easily sense the step-by-step course to greater fulfillment. These steps are your road map to a more fully lived life. For example, when I looked to the “ten” level of living my purpose, I saw myself taking immediate action to write a new book, expand RIM class offerings, and seek RIM research opportunities. The underbelly of envy and jealousy is an unconscious holding back of yourself. Some of us have grown up in families and cultures feeding us messages like “Don't get too big for your britches” and “It's selfish to call attention to yourself or your needs.” In these situations, you may have learned to shy away from playing at the level that excites you. The emotional result can be to think you are less capable than you are and to take fewer risks.

If this is happening for you, you can stretch beyond your comfort zone to explore. Stepping out is scary at first—until you begin to experience greater aliveness, joy, and sense of purpose. Then the call to the quest becomes compelling.

When my husband wanted to make a career change before his fiftieth birthday, we decided to put aside our work to take the kids on a yearlong personal sabbatical to Australia. Around this time, I came across a poignant quote by French philosopher André Gide: “One does not discover new lands, without losing sight of the shore for a very long time.” I thought, “Oh yes, we're losing sight of the shore for a year.” That year was so transformational for the entire family, it has developed into a way of life for each of us. We have been drawn to lose sight of the shore regularly. We visit the shore of “comfortable same old” for a while, then head out again to explore unknown waters.

You have new shores calling to you, too. They are unique to your personality and talents. It is irrelevant how dramatic the risk. The important thing is to express yourself step-by-step more fully in your own way and timing.