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Another group of people who can end up being miserable are those who suffer from the love-at-first-sight syndrome. The French call it le coup de foudre — the bolt of lightning — and rarely do people get hit by lightning (thank heavens!). Undoubtedly, love at first sight does happen: Two people meet at a party, ride off into the sunset (or dawn), and live happily ever after. For those lucky few, the experience is great. But for so many others, waiting for love at first sight brings only misery.

If you find yourself wanting nothing less than an instant attraction, you may just be avoiding the time and work required to build a successful relationship. When you’ll accept either love at first sight or nothing, be prepared for some problems.

You may stare into the eyes of a million people and never see those sparks fly. Or the two of you may lock eyes on a passing bus and never see each other again. Before it ceased publication, every week in New York City’s Village Voice you could find ads placed by people looking for that special someone of whom they caught only a fleeting glimpse. Some people believed those ads were romantic; I think they’re sad. People who indulge these kinds of delusions often wind up old and alone.

While you’re waiting for your Venus or Adonis to appear, you’re not giving other people a chance; even though, with time, one of them may turn out to be your one true love.

You may find yourself always falling in love with people who don’t love you back.