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Here’s an example of a search for love that was doomed from the start:

Lonely Lisa

Lisa came to see me because she couldn’t find a man. She was desperate, but what kind of help did she come to me for? What she most wanted from me was to get her a date with a certain very famous TV star. Not only do I not know this star, not only would I not do such a thing if I did know him, but where in heaven’s name did she get the idea that this star was waiting for her to walk into his life? She was setting herself up for lonely nights by choosing such a totally unrealistic goal.

Whatever you think of Lisa, you have to understand that she’s not alone. Oh, not everybody has their eyes set exclusively on one TV or movie star (although certainly millions of people fantasize about stars, and doing so is alright), but many of you may have a certain image of the person you want, oftentimes an unrealistic image, so you wind up just as lonely as Lisa.

If you base your selection on only one aspect of a person, such as looks or job title, doing so ensures that you miss out on meeting some very nice people who may not fit into the one cubbyhole in which you are looking.