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Another trap that you can fall into if you go on a lot of dates because of an app is that you get jaded. The questions you’ll be asked will all be similar, and so when you’re giving your answers, you’ll be bored saying the same thing over and over. So I suggest you find ways to add some creativity to these first dates.

One way would be to bring a book. (I know, you normally read books on your phone, but bear with me.) If you’re the first one to arrive, the book gives you something to do besides look at your phone, and remember, I want you not to be thinking about all the distractions on your phone, so if it’s put away, you’ll be better off. And then by putting a book down on the table, it’s almost a given that it will be the first subject of discussion.

You need to choose the book carefully. The subject matter should be one that interests you and about which you have a lot to say. If the book is about science, a topic you’re passionate about, and your date turns out to share that passion, the date will be starting off on the right foot.

Or let’s say your biological clock is ticking and you’re looking to find a potential father, bringing a magazine that has an article on raising children would be a lead-in to that topic. If the person opposite you indicates in words or body language that having children isn’t something that appeals to him or her, then you’ll know that this date won’t pan out for you.