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If you’re not in love, at least not head-over-heels in love, but just like each other very much, introducing sex into the relationship will be trickier. Sex is an intimate act, and an increase in intimacy might turn up the volume on your feelings, which would be a good thing. But sex, if it’s just to satisfy curiosity, can make two people less intimate. By having sex, you’ve taken a large bite out of the mystery of the relationship. Maybe you’ll start comparing this person to past lovers. That’s always a risky thing to do but especially if the person isn’t basking in the glow of your love. Shine a cold, harsh light on two naked bodies, and the result may not be so pretty.

At this point let me be clear that I’m not saying that two people who have sex must be on the road to marriage. Every relationship isn’t going to last. And every marriage isn’t guaranteed to last either. What I do advise is that there exist a strong emotional pull between the two of you, one that at least has the potential to be permanent. That way, having sex will make the relationship stronger rather than drive a wedge between the two of you, as can happen when two people who don’t have strong feelings for each other have sex.