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Are there other considerations when it comes to deciding to go ahead and have sex with someone? Definitely. Here are few important ones:

 Do you feel safe with this person? You’re very vulnerable when you have sex with someone. You’re naked, and at the moment of orgasm the rest of the world gets shut out. If you perceive, either consciously or subconsciously, any sort of dangerous vibe coming from this person, that’s going to interfere with your sexual pleasure. You’ll be less able to let go. And if your gut is offering up warning signs, maybe you should listen.

 Does this person make you feel good about yourself? None of us has a perfect body. Clothing masks a lot of imperfections. Take that clothing off, and you’ll likely feel some degree of embarrassment — at least for the initial few times. So does this other person make you feel good about yourself? If you can’t answer yes, maybe you should think twice before allowing him or her to see you completely naked.

 Are you sure you really know this person? Getting to know someone requires a peeling back of layers. Nobody shows their true selves on a first date, and it might take weeks or even months for the real you to emerge. And that’s true for your partner as well. This is a learning period and there can be some rough spots. There may come a time when you think to yourself, “Am I sure I want to be a couple?” Physical desire can help pull you through such moments. If you still have something important to look forward to, then perhaps you’ll decide that the good overcomes the bad. But if you’re already having sex, then it’s no longer a carrot urging you forward.