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If he drapes his arm across her shoulders on the second date and she gives him a smile, that’s a probably sign of progress towards sex but it’s not a green light to hopping into bed later that evening. But if while they’re having dinner she plays footsie with him under the table, he’s probably going to assume that she’s indicating a readiness to take the relationship further. How far, however, if yet to be determined.

I don’t believe that some aspects of this double standard are ever going to change because men and women are built differently. On the whole, men become aroused a lot faster than a woman. And while a man can rape a woman, the reverse is not true as she can’t force him to achieve an erection though that’s not to say, as studies have shown, that a woman can’t coerce a man into having sex even if she can’t physically force him into doing so. But still, all these factors have to be integrated in how humans act when it comes to entering the sexual continuum.

And let’s face it, the man still is the one expected to push the sexual side of the relationship forward. That’s not to say that there aren’t plenty of women who aren’t afraid of being sexually assertive but they also understand that they risk turning the man they’re with off if they come on too strong.