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There’s no doubt that the older you are, the harder it is to meet other single people. Many of those your age are married. And many of those who aren’t have some underlying issue which explains why they’re single. And then everyone who is single for a long time develops habits that make him or her more particular. While you might have tolerated dating a slob at age 25, you absolutely won’t at age 55.

Another factor that changes as you age is that relationships lead to sex, and sex has changed for you. You can read more about that in Chapter 19, but I admit that some of those changes are easier to handle when you’ve been in a committed relationship for a long time than when you’ve only just met someone. Yes, age-related changes affect everyone, so your date is also running into some technical glitches, but your tendency is going to be to focus on your issues, not that of the other person.

The best advice I can give you is to be honest. If you’re a woman who needs lubrication, don’t suffer by pretending you don’t. If you’re a man who needs the assistance of a little blue pill, which needs to be taken ahead of time, let your partner know why you’re stalling. Sharing feelings of embarrassment can actually bring you closer together while faking it, in whatever way, will make true intimacy harder to find.

And always bear in mind that if someone rejects you because of some personal issue it probably meant the relationship wasn’t going to bear fruit so the sooner you know that, the better.