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The dating apps themselves come and go. Tinder and Match may be the best known, but there are many, many others such as Blue, Bumble, Christian Mingle, eHarmony, JDate, OK Cupid, Senior People Meet, Wingman, and Zoosk. The basic idea is the same: the app is going to help you find people in order to discover whether someone might bring some romance into your life. Some people use these apps only to bring some sex into their lives. If that’s what both parties are looking for, fine. But we humans need emotional relationships to feel fully satisfied, and so finding such a relationship should be your ultimate goal.

There are more “serious” apps that charge a monthly fee, supposedly using science to put you together with someone whom you’ll find appealing, while others are free. Which type of app you should rely on to find love depends on how much time you’re willing to invest. If you’re paying for the service, hopefully the weeding out process will be somewhat effective. If it’s free, then you become the one doing the initial weeding. And if you have a lot of money to burn, there remain matchmakers who work with you one-on-one.

You might also think of using a dating app that appeals to people who are similar to you in some way. Some apps are for an older crowd like Our Time or Silver Singles. Apps like BlackPeopleMeet or BlackSingles.com are, obviously, for African Americans while LatinAmericanCupid.com is for Latinos. And there are plenty of niche dating services whose titles are fairly self-explanatory including: Fitness Singles, BiCupid, Military Cupid, Dating4Disbled, and PostiveSingles. By helping you to hone in on other singles who have something in common with you, you’ll be increasing your chances of meeting with success.

Dating apps are often more suited to metropolitan areas, where there’s a large pool of single people. A dating app does you no good if most of the people on it live far away. Before you decide on an app, see which ones seem to have the most people who live nearby. Ask your friends which one they recommend. By doing some early research you won’t waste as much time becoming interested in people who aren’t suitable because of the distance you’d have to cross just to have a cup of coffee together.