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“With the law of attraction, your thoughts are like a boomerang: whatever boomerang you throw, the exact same boomerang will return to you.”

– Rhonda Byrne

This rule, often called the Law of Attraction, states that we attract into our lives whatever we focus our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs on. By concentrating on positivity, joy, and gratitude, we attract similar situations. Conversely, a constant focus on negativity and fear attracts trouble and disappointment. It is important to understand that this law is not a magical formula for fulfilling wishes. Rather, it reflects how our mindset and emotional state influence our actions, which, in turn, shape our reality.

Research in positive psychology1, particularly the work of Martin Seligman, shows that qualities like optimism (which is directly linked to focusing on the positive and believing in a favorable outcome) correlate with better life outcomes. Optimistic people are more likely to persevere in achieving their goals, cope more effectively with stress, and demonstrate better physical health and overall well-being.

This rule manifests in all areas of life. In relationships: if you are convinced that “people can’t be trusted,” your behavior will push away honest people and attract those who confirm your fears. At work, a person with a “scarcity mindset” focuses on problems, is afraid to act, and ultimately remains in a state of lack. In health, it shows up like this: a constant fear of getting sick creates chronic stress, which weakens the immune system. In daily life, your inner state works like a radio receiver: if you’re tuned to the frequency of irritation, you will only notice rudeness; if you’re tuned to the frequency of gratitude, you will notice a passerby’s smile and the beautiful weather on the same day. The world doesn’t change – what you are tuned to perceive changes. Your inner vibration, your state of mind, is your main tool for creation.

A real-life example. When I had my own sewing and clothing repair shop, for some reason, I was terrified of a tax audit. It wasn’t that I had problems with my documents; I was just afraid they would find something to nitpick, and I didn’t want to pay fines out of my small profit. And, of course, a few days later, an employee would inform me of an audit. I would go and resolve the issue. In essence, nothing terrible ever happened: they issued recommendations that needed to be followed within a certain timeframe, and that was it. This experience became a confirmation of this rule for me: thoughts and worries can create and attract specific situations.

With my fear and anxiety, I was essentially “attracting” the very thing I wanted to avoid. I was mentally focused on problems with the tax office, and this led to an audit. This is a classic example of a self-fulfilling prophecy: we believe so strongly in a certain outcome that we unconsciously contribute to its realization. Each of us can find similar examples in our own lives. But there is a positive side to this rule: if we can attract what we fear, it means we can also attract what we desire (we’ll talk more about this in Chapter 9). Understanding this rule is the path to consciously creating your reality.

To learn how to apply this rule to attract pleasant moments into your life, you can use the “Positive Affirmations” technique. Affirmations are short, positive statements that you repeat regularly to program your subconscious for success.

• Formulate affirmations in the present tense, as if what you desire has already happened. For example:

– “I am wealthy and prosperous!”

– “I am healthy and full of energy!”

• Choose affirmations that evoke positive emotions in you and that you can believe in. Do not use statements that seem implausible to you (see Appendix 3 for a full list of affirmations).

• Write down your affirmations. This will help you remember them better and focus on them. When you repeat your affirmations, imagine that what you desire has already come true – visualize the image and feel the emotions that arise.

• Repeat your affirmations regularly, preferably several times a day, in the morning after waking up and in the evening before bed. You can say them out loud or to yourself.

• Remember that belief is the key ingredient for success. Believe that your affirmations are working, and you will surely see results.

The rule “like attracts like” is a powerful tool for creating the life you want. By changing your mindset and emotional state, you can change your reality. If you control your thoughts and emotions, you control the circumstances they attract.