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Lapsing, ‘having a bad day’, ‘losing your focus’ or ‘falling off the wagon’ – whatever you want to call it – is a perfectly normal part of changing. It’s human nature to forget to have your morning snack occasionally, and end up choosing something unhelpful at lunchtime – that happens because you got too hungry to make a sensible choice, not because you have no willpower. Likewise, going to someone’s house for dinner and eating a meal which doesn’t quite fit in with low-GL principles is being polite, not weak willed. I have never worked with a patient who hasn’t had the odd slip here or there, and I don’t expect I ever will. If it were that easy to be perfect all of the time I doubt any of my patients would bother coming to see me, and you wouldn’t have bothered to buy this book!

A lapse becomes a problem when it triggers all kinds of negative thinking, feelings of hopelessness, complacency and guilt:

  I’ve never had any willpower.

  I always give in to temptation.

  I’ve blown it.

  I’m miserable – let’s eat – I’m even more miserable – let’s eat some more …

  One biscuit won’t hurt.

That’s just the time when a lapse is in real danger of turning into a relapse, and within minutes you can be right at the end of that diet-trap cycle all over again. These are just the kinds of trick our negative dieting experience from the past likes to play on us. It’s the way our old behaviour tries to exert power over the new relationship we have with food. The unhealthy food behaviours we have learnt, and relearnt, to perfection every time we have tried to diet in the past, enforce the negative self-belief thoughts like these promote. Part of finding your Diet Freedom is facing these thoughts head-on and beating them. A critical part of the process is seeing a lapse for what it is, understanding why it happened, deciding if you would deal with the situation differently in the future and moving on. End of story.