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I strongly recommend that you work the chapters in order. They are sequenced as I teach them to my clients and the exercises build on one another. But if it seems to work better for you, feel free to skip around.

Books like this one don't just work on a mental level. There is a certain energy and vibration at work here, too. The stories are designed to be uplifting and the book overall is designed to have a high positive energy to it. That positive energy alone might be beneficial to you.

I recommend reading one or two chapters a week and doing the exercises they suggest. You'll want to use a journal or notebook, or your computer, to record your responses to the different exercises. If you prefer a faster or slower pace, that's just fine. Please don't get too hung up on whether you're doing it right or wrong. Any way it works for you is the best way.

The most important “tool” of all for doing this work is a good attitude and a “little willingness,” a desire to learn a new perspective and a desire to develop some new skills. Also, I think you will find it helpful to drop your goals for now and simply enter this adventure as if you were conducting an experiment, with the intention of finding out what will happen as you go. If you discover that very strong feelings surface during this forgiveness process and that you feel overwhelmed by them, it would be wise to put the book down for a little while or contact a good therapist, support group, or facilitator to further help you with the forgiveness process. For most people, however, that won't be necessary.

One caution: if you are working on forgiving someone who you feel is hurting you a great deal, it is okay to remove yourself from that person's presence and/or to assert yourself appropriately even while you are learning how to forgive him or her. In other words, please don't feel guilty if you deem it necessary to limit contact with that person while you become stronger using the forgiveness solution process. In fact, it might be necessary for your safety.

Because my own path has been varied and instructive, in The Forgiveness Solution I pull from a wide range of therapy methods and ideas, including Western and Eastern techniques and concepts. I draw from cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), psychospiritual therapy, attitudinal healing, energy therapy, and others. Some ideas will be new to you, and it's perfectly understandable if you are skeptical about them at first. I encourage you to bear with me and try my suggestions. I think you will discover just how powerful these different approaches and perspectives can be.

Reading the book once will give you much to work with. Read it three times, however, and do the practices and exercises regularly, and you will get maximum value from it. Then you will begin to develop a mastery of forgiveness that will greatly benefit you, and others, for the rest of your life.

I know everyone is pressed for time and that sometimes it's hard to stay motivated to do exercises learned from a book. Most of us end up picking and choosing. If you do nothing else, please practice the Psychological Uplifter regularly. It will help you create a positive frame of mind, which greatly facilitates forgiveness.