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According to Frank Fincham, J. Hall, and S.R.H. Beach, forgiveness is essential in understanding marital satisfaction and relationship dynamics.⁴ In general, couples who are able to forgive experience greater marital satisfaction and longevity, better communication, and enhanced intimacy and empathy. Forgiveness in marriage also decreases hurts, disappointments, anger, revenge, and destructive arguments. Forgiveness is especially important, of course, when dealing with infidelity (more on this in chapter 12). So another benefit of forgiving is that you may discover that not only do you experience greater peace of mind and happiness from forgiving but also a significant improvement in your intimate relationships.

Forgiveness can also be very important after a divorce.⁵ Just because the other person no longer lives or interacts with you doesn't mean the emotional underpinnings aren't there. Learning to forgive an ex-spouse is not only good for the children, it's good for your own mental, physical, and future relationship health.