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True listening does not need to be demonstrated by constantly nodding our head, saying, yes yes, even though most of us believe we have to. Subconsciously, we feel that it may be a sign of disinterest or impoliteness if all we do is be silent and just listen. We do this particularly frequently when we are using the telephone.

In truth, listening is a very important skill, but not one we are taught anywhere. Listening is much more than being quiet. Sometimes we can be quiet and yet be inwardly seething with anger if we do not agree with what we hear. Most of the time, we are not really listening but are already looking for counter arguments. By doing this, we make it impossible to have an exchange of communication.

Listening means that we are quiet and allow the words of the speaker to impact on us. We strive to understand the speaker, his thought processes and feelings.

Listening is the ability to allow the content of what the speaker says to reach us.

Without this ability, constructive communication is impossible.

Communication is an exchange of information and the meaning it contains. When we are the ones speaking, we need to learn to formulate the meaning contained in what we say so that it reaches the listener in exactly the way we intend. Equally we need to do our best to receive the content of someone else’s communication in the way it was intended.

Listening is the ability to tune into the world of the speaker and thereby enable the meaning contained in his verbal expressions to reach us.

Communication is only possible when it is based on honesty. Honesty allows truth to flow in both directions. An exchange of communication includes giving truth, receiving truth and accepting it.