Читать книгу Triumph Of Love Over Ego - Saeed Habibzadeh - Страница 43

One of our greatest challenges is self-evaluation. We tend to have a somewhat troubled and strained relationship with ourselves. We are unable to look at ourselves objectively and unemotionally and tend to misjudge ourselves. We tend to view with exaggeration some aspects of ourselves where we have few talents, but where we are really competent and talented, we often have an understated, derogatory opinion of ourselves.

This is because we are constantly upgrading and devaluating ourselves as a person. This is not only pointless, but it also ruins our self-esteem and self-confidence. It would be better if we were able to perceive and evaluate ourselves as realistically and objectively as possible. However, this is only possible if we approach ourselves openly and inquisitively, and deal honestly and respectfully with our time, strength and abilities.

One important aspect is our ability to handle our own weaknesses and shortcomings. Some of us have a tendency to regard ourselves as perfection personified, whereas others look at themselves as the lowest of the low, or they misunderstand the concept of self-discipline and treat themselves cruelly and unkindly.

There are some points we need to consider:

1. It makes a huge difference whether we identify with our strengths or our weaknesses. Identifying with our weaknesses weakens our character and destroys our self-confidence and self-esteem. Nobody is lazy in everything he does. As a rule, you are lazy when you feel unmotivated and have no ambition – we can tell this because, when you are involved with something important to you, you are extremely hardworking and motivated. But if you identify with your laziness, call yourself lazy and keep hearing this from other people, you will eventually turn into a lazy person who has no interest in anything anymore.

When we identify with our weaknesses, we program our consciousness in a negative way and we continue to grow smaller, while our problems keep growing bigger.

2. Supporting ourselves is not the same as identifying with our weaknesses. Many people believe themselves to be self-confident if they brazenly display and defend their weaknesses. They pretend to be proud of their shortcomings or assume that society should just put up with them as a matter of course.

3. It is unpleasant to burden others with our weaknesses but it is equally wrong to burden and terrorize ourselves with them. If you treat yourself unkindly, you will not be able to make much progress with certain aspects of your mind.

Only love makes our life beautiful, rich and happy.

As we can see, being self-critical does not mean constantly bashing ourselves up and being dissatisfied with ourselves, but that we treat ourselves with kindness, honesty and discipline, and build up our self-confidence.

When you have a more realistic view of yourself, you will automatically find success, because your talents and abilities will lead you to your true vocation and your life’s work. Treating yourself in this way, you will automatically home in on suitable surroundings where you will be able to grow and develop naturally, without stress, and live in happiness.