Читать книгу Triumph Of Love Over Ego - Saeed Habibzadeh - Страница 37

We usually do not concern ourselves with what is, but with what we want or what we want to see. When we perceive something, we do not concern ourselves with the facts but with the emotional reaction it causes us to feel. This way we do not concern ourselves with real life, but with the slant given to it by our ego.

This creates a conflict between day-to-day necessities and our own egoistic interests.

We are not actually living our life – we just keep talking to ourselves about it!

And while we do that, our perception remains superficial and does not enter into the depths where the principles and messages of life lie hidden. The result of this ongoing conversation with our ego and the superficiality of our perception is a restless consciousness. A widely held misapprehension states that we are happier when we do not know what is going on in the world and the less we know of the truth, the better we feel. But the opposite is true!

The more superficial our perception, the more restless and unhappy we are!

The reason being that the truth shows us the connections and principles that help us lead a successful, healthy and happy life.

The calmer we are, the deeper our perception becomes.

Superficial people do not know the power of inner calm and their life is full of secrets and mysteries they cannot comprehend.

Secrets exist only where truth is concealed or not recognized.

Another aspect of illusion and reality is that we base our action on how things appear to us. We are not interested in what they actually are and so the way we act is not based on fact but on the interpretation by our ego. Say, for instance, a friend tells us something positive about a person who made a bad impression on us. Chances are we say something like: “I can't say anything good about him.” We say this not because he truly is a bad person, or because we even took the time to get to know him properly, but because our perception (our first impression) of him was negative. We must not simply consider whether we think someone is good or bad, but we must also consider whether or not he does good deeds. This is the difference between objectivity and taking things personally.

A couple of other interesting questions concerning perception: why do we take to some people and not to others? And why do we block out some of the things we experience as though they had never happened?

Everything we do is stored in our soul, and whatever is stored there, shines out from our soul. This is called charisma, the radiance that emanates from a person. We each have our own individual charisma, depending on whether what we have stored in our soul is more positive or more negative. This is why we feel good with some people and not so good with others. But most of the time we only take to those people who suit us at ego level – those who think, act or feel like we do. This superficiality is the root cause of all the disappointment we experience in our relationships.

The more superficial we become, the more importance we place on outer appearances. The more profound we become, the more we realize that somebody’s outer appearance is only an aspect of his or her character.

Sometimes we do not dress in accordance with our character, but rather as is expected or demanded from us. However, lightwalkers will always ensure a well-groomed appearance, as they greatly value harmony and would not like to disturb others by wearing disharmonious clothing.

Another interesting aspect is our tendency to appear different from how we really are. We play-act everywhere, whether at work or with friends, even at home and in our own bed we assume whatever role we feel is appropriate. We are a good mother or a good father at home, a nice colleague at work, a good listener with friends etc.

There is of course nothing wrong with trying to act appropriately. But if our true character cannot find room to breathe, if we suppress our true nature, then we will grow ever more ill, unhappy and lonely. It is all very well to display appropriate behaviour, but we need to remain true to ourselves and not sell out our own values and ideals just to be acceptable to others.

Those who are right for us will love us as we are, with all our weaknesses and problems. Only those who are wrong for us demand that we change to suit them. Only those who are wrong for us reject us!