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There are two kinds of behaviour patterns: the ones we invent for ourselves and the ones we pick up from our role models or those around us. In some situations we devise patterns of behaviour without being aware of it – a typical reaction at character level to everyday situations. These patterns can be very diverse. For instance, we may hide behind a behaviour pattern to conceal our insecurity. Or we try to artificially boost ourselves so that we appear to be particularly strong. We only tend to apply these patterns once we have utilized them successfully before. We subsequently act the same way in a similar situation, so that we can achieve the same success we experienced previously. By repeating a particular behaviour, we create a behaviour pattern.

When we adopt behaviour patterns from role models and other people around us, they tend to come from people we look up to and who, we suspect, have particular traits and abilities – in other words, they are the sort of person we would like to be. By copying their behaviour, we try to get as close to them as we possibly can. And in order to become like them, we need to behave like them. And so we subconsciously adopt the behaviour patterns of our role models without even realizing it. This may be limited to a certain haircut or a particular style of dress, or it may influence our entire life.

When we repeat these patterns of behaviour, we create mechanisms that start to rule our lives and our behaviour without us noticing. Mechanisms are the patterns of behaviour that we display without being aware of them.

Repetition of mechanisms will, in time, create automatisms. These are patterns of behaviour that have become part of our character and our life. We identify with these automatisms and we never question them.

On a daily basis, our world supplies a multitude of examples of behaviour that have nothing whatsoever to do with reason or common sense. This is only possible when we do something, or allow something to be done, without considering our actions and their consequences – it is as though someone flicks a switch that makes us act a certain way. This then would lead to all those indiscriminate collective deeds that defy logical explanation. It is how men end up going into battle and injure each other purely because they belong to opposing sports clubs. And this is how men go to war purely because someone ordered them to.

And so we can see that simple, trivial behaviour patterns can turn into many mechanisms and automatisms that make our lives unnecessarily difficult.

If you would like to be happy, you need to find out what your patterns of behaviour, your mechanisms and automatisms are, and you need to adjust them.

We need to learn to make our decisions fully consciously and with full commitment. Only then can we be sure to act only in ways that are in agreement with our heart.

When we do not determine our own behaviour, we allow other powers to assume control of our life. We mutate into puppets, consumers and workers who do as they are told without giving any consideration to the consequences.