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To humans, all zebras look the same: like a horse with stripes. However, a baby zebra knows the exact difference between the stripes of its mother and those of other zebras. Why? Because, to ensure its survival, it’s essential for the baby zebra to find its mother immediately. She’s the only one providing protection. Only she will feed it, and only she will risk her life to protect her offspring when a lion attacks. So, the baby zebra has a barcode saved, for which it scans all the other zebras to find its mother.

It’s quite similar with us humans when we grow up. Depending on how we are nurtured, raised, and socialized, a sort of barcode is imprinted on our brains. It consists of many experiences: the way we were loved by our caregivers, or hurt, or neglected by them. Each line of that code is related to an experience. Later on, we subconsciously feel drawn to people with a similar bar code. If there is enough agreement, it will turn into love. If there is too little, the relationship will not outlast the first six months of infatuation.

Human nature demands that we grow and evolve, make discoveries and, if required, change our behavior. This is only possible thanks to the principle of the matching barcodes; it’s the negative atmospheres, experiences, and traumas that want to be resolved and healed. They are stored within us, and only by encountering others can we become aware of them, and it is only what we are aware of that can be changed.