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Tell yourself often enough that ‘Everything has gone wrong since I moved into this house’ and it will continue to do so. Convince yourself that you are having ‘one of those days’ and you will. Not only will your own negativity make you see only the down side of every event, it will also draw out the negativity in others.

If you find yourself behaving in this way, it is worth stopping and taking stock of the realities of your situation. What really has gone wrong since you moved into your house? Make a list and study it. Are some of the items on the list things that would have happened anyway, wherever you were living? Are they all really as bad as all that? Now make a list of all the things that have gone right since you came to live there – things you may not have stopped to consider from the depths of your negative hole. Great or small, I’m certain that if you are honest you will be able to find a number of things to put on the positive side. (For one thing, you are well enough to be sitting there making the list.)

Even when you look at that list of ‘wrongs’, can it all really be the fault of the house, the day, the weather – or whatever else you have convinced yourself is to blame? Try being more positive and making a note of good things as they happen to you – even the little ones. It really works.