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If it is your life and you have full responsibility, why should it be important or decisive what other people think about you? The fear of not pleasing others or of falling into their envy strongly affects our everyday lives. We adapt our behaviour accordingly and put our own interests and wishes aside. Does that look familiar to you? Do you know that from yourself? If so, that's no reason to get upset. It's just a good time to stop.

Too many people buy status symbols they can't afford to impress others with. We lie about our interests to make a positive impression. We say "yes" when we actually mean "no" and say that we are doing well when we are doing badly in reality. All this only because we constantly think about how our counterpart perceives us. Please don't take this the wrong way: thinking about one's external impression can be helpful, but that thought should not come first. First you come! Remember: There is only one opinion about you that really counts and this is your own!

What good does it do you to please others? How does it get you ahead in life? In fact, this has only very weak and superficial advantages for you. If, for example, you buy an expensive car to impress others, you are putting yourself in an unfavourable position. Someone will perceive you for about a minute and admire you for the great vehicle. After that this person will continue again and take care of his own affairs. The other 23 hours and 59 minutes of the day you have to stand straight for the car. They must bear the high costs and full responsibility for them.

If you go to work sick to make a positive impression on your boss, do yourself no favours at all. You are endangering your health in the long term, while the praise you receive only lasts for a few minutes. The truth is that even if you don't go to work, the company you work for will continue to exist. You are primarily responsible for yourself and not for what your employer thinks about you.

If you lose weight, exercise regularly and dress well, then you should do it for yourself first and foremost. It is important that you feel comfortable in your skin, because you only have this one body. The aesthetic feelings of other people should only play a subordinate role here. Everyone has a different taste, so you can't please everyone anyway. While you use your body continuously to cope with your everyday life, other people only see it for a relatively short time. So who should he be more important to?

A self-confident person acts in his own interest and does not think about what others might think. By the way, it is interesting to note that other people are more attracted to self-confident and self-determined personalities anyway. In plain language, this means that the stronger you build up and expand your self-confidence, the more attractive and desirable you will be in the eyes of others.

Be independent of foreign opinions and do your very own thing. A self-confident person recognizes and understands that responsibility means power. When you let other people decide how you dress, what you buy or how you spend your time, you give them power. Power over your life that would actually be better off in your own hands. But if you take full responsibility, you have full power. It's entirely up to you.