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In my coaching I determine their comfort zone together with my clients. The comfort zone is the nest of habits that we have built up over many years and in which we make ourselves comfortable. Always the same people, places, activities, beliefs, etc. Since this term is often misunderstood, I will give you a concrete example of the classic comfort zone, as we know it from everyday life:

Our example person is called Lisa. Lisa is 30 years old, working and a rather introverted person. She would claim of herself to be little self-confident and would like to change something about it. If you look at their everyday lives, you see that they follow a pattern. The respective days are very similar to each other and there is very little variety in them. Lisa goes to work regularly, comes home afterwards, takes care of the household and then makes herself comfortable in front of the television or in the armchair with a book. She has known her friends for a very long time and if she spends time with them, then either on the phone, at her or her friends' home or in her favourite pub. She is rather sceptical towards new acquaintances and is afraid to dissolve inner blockades or to fight long existing fears. Instead, she incorporates detours into her life that avoid confrontations and unpleasant situations. It's hard for her to get involved with new things. She doesn't like trying out new foods, reading books that don't fit her favourite genre, or testing new sports.

Does any of this sound familiar to you? Can a few of these points also be applied to your situation? If so, then that's nothing to be ashamed of. It's convenient to set up a comfort zone. But you pay a high price for it: it costs us self-confidence and above all self-confidence.

The happiness and self-confidence you long for are outside your comfort zone. The whole thing is based on a simple thought: if all these things were already within your comfort zone, you wouldn't crave them. However, since you are not satisfied, but want to change something, you will have to break new ground. You have to dissolve the boundaries and leave the good old comfort zone. Not for nothing is there a saying that says, "Life begins outside the comfort zone."

Bring variety into your everyday life. Meet new people. Try different sports or a new hobby. Look at a movie you wouldn't have been interested in otherwise. Visit a restaurant with your friends where you have never been before. Don't go to the cinema for the umpteenth time on a Saturday night, but go billiards or bowling. Take part in a crime thriller dinner and interact with complete strangers. Face unpleasant challenges and even your fears.

Why would you do all that? Because all this takes courage. Because it not only enriches you with new experiences, but also encourages you to trust yourself. Every single time you venture out of the comfort zone and experience something satisfying, you strengthen your self-confidence. You notice that not only have you suffered no damage, but you have also had fun, learned new things and have grown a bit as a personality. This will give you the strength and courage to have more positive experiences that will strengthen your self-confidence even more!

You have to try some things in life to find out what you really like or don't like. Think of your favourite food and a dish that you find terrible. In order to find out what you particularly like or don't like, you had to try these things for the first time. They got involved in something new. In the same way, there are still unbelievably many things outside your comfort zone that you will love. They just don't know it yet. Of course, you will also try things that you don't like after all. However, this is part of the learning process and also strengthens your self-confidence: one more thing that you can say with certainty that does not suit you or your personality.

Never believe that you have heard, seen or got to know everything. Life is unbelievably extensive and multi- faceted. We can't "finish learning." Every day there is something new to experience and discover. The whole world is your comfort zone. Explore them!