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I’d have to say that’s all code for: He’s just not that into you. –Jack Berger

To become aware if you are getting to the root of his soul, look for clues that confirm his interest. Pay attention to his subconscious responses, which he is unable to control. If he is obviously trying to please or charm you, he is probably playing up to your vanity with no genuine interest in you. When he is interested, his face and gestures become more vibrant. Should you resist him, he may become more creative and motivated in overcoming your resistance. His strong desire can have an infectious impact on you.

Trust your instincts and your heart will tell you whether he is interested or not; noticing these signs is verification. When you have a deep effect on him the changes are visible. Detect the small gestures. His body language indicates how he feels more than anything he may actually say. When he is excited by your presence he may blush, stutter or his voice may tremble. He may even become tearful, laugh nervously, or adopt a relaxed persona. Darwin claimed that facial expressions are universal and part of evolution. Therefore, to divine his thoughts, imitate the expression on his face as accurately as possible and the same thoughts will arise in your mind or heart. If he holds eye contact with you longer than usual, he is probably quite interested. The guy who is interested keeps you within his field of vision, and every so often makes sure that you are still there. Another sign of interest is the size of his pupils; undiluted pupils can be a sign of disinterest.

The position of his body is a clue to his level of interest. Physically, when he is interested, he will reduce the personal space between you in comparison to the space he keeps with others, perhaps standing closer to you than to others. If he stands with his shoulders parallel to you or his feet in your direction even when standing with other people, it is a sign of attraction in his body language. If he rubs his brows with his fingers or smiles for no good reason while talking to you, it is a strong sign of interest. Fake smiles fade away very quickly.

If he finds you or your angle of conversation captivating, he will not glance in another direction. Generally, when people are deeply in love, they gaze at each other much more and are not so quick to look away. He will look longingly at things he enjoys and move his eyes away from those he does not. Unless he is naturally timid; his shyness impairs his ability to maintain good eye contact. Sometimes when you have just met and you overwhelm him, he will avoid eye contact with you, looking at everyone’s eyes but yours. On these occasions, he is probably really interested; if his feet and chest point towards you, these are sure signs that he likes you. If he is pointing at you, he is interested or at least intrigued by what you are telling him. If he is not interested or is distracted by someone else, he prepares to move his body by stepping back or turning away. The same applies to head movements; if he turns his head away from you, it signals a lack of interest either in the topic or in you. Any kind of involuntary mirroring can be a sign that he is influenced by you. His tone of voice can also tell you a lot about what he feels. Another sign is the slip of the tongue; he may say something that reveals what he is or is not interested in called the Freudian slip.