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We are as happy as we make up our minds to be. –Abraham Lincoln

The Whiner thrives on constant drama and pain in order to keep boredom at bay. Offering him security and stability will make him run away. He likes to play the victim and always finds something to complain about; he subsists on pain and enjoys how it feels.

To be in touch with his soul, you must provide him with enough pain to keep him coming back for more. If you are too nice, he will find some reason to kick you to the curb. In order to recognise him, look for signs that he wants you to feel sorry for him. Listen to his tales of the number of women who have hurt him in the past, his tragedies and misfortune he has endured. One extreme could be a selfishness which is off-putting, but in most cases he is relatively harmless and easy to intrigue, if you can tolerate the negativity. If you want a long-term relationship with a whiner, you will constantly need to infuse drama into it. For some, this can be an exciting challenge and a source for constantly renewing the relationship. Generally, however, you should see an involvement with a man like this as something which is short-lived or as a temporary solution when you have a hunger for drama. If you have a lot of patience, maybe you can bear him for longer.