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Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the imagination and bottling the common sense. –Helen Rowland

Emotions are the essence of life. It is assumed that emotions are uncontrollable, yet love and hatred can be controlled by coming to terms with what triggers them. Every man has basic desires or needs that must be met before he is able fall in love. If you do not seem to meet any of his criteria, you may not even be considered before you embark. Gather as much information as possible on him and his background. Making someone go crazy over you are sometimes as simple as giving him the feeling that you have what he needs or enjoys about himself. Appealing to his emotions puts you in a more powerful position than appealing to reason.

After satisfying our basic means of survival, the pursuit of happiness is one of the primary motivations in our daily lives. He works hard to maximise his enjoyable experiences. To conquer his mind and soul, work on intensifying the emotions he gets the most out of. Some men enjoy certain emotions, while others can’t stand them. Then there are those who are indifferent to them. Look into his unsatisfied desires, brought about by his inhibitions. Bring his deepest desires to the surface. Try to fill that empty space that is crying out for fulfilment. He will benefit from the source of pleasure. Make his dreams come true by feeding him the emotions over which he has the least amount of control. Every man has a need desperate to be satisfied. If you manage to validate his subconscious wishes, his emotions will be exposed and love will set in. The approach you take depends on who he is; you need to clearly understand him making every effort to live up to his most coveted of fantasies.

To appeal to men with different desires, you may need to assume many roles, which depend on the other person’s response to stimuli. To attract men from different backgrounds, all you need to do is take pleasure in performing. Do not become restricted by your own identity. Your character is made up of in-built behaviours which are possible to alter or develop through focus. Most of us want to instill positive change within ourselves. It is even better if we can make this change, with the motivation to become a more interesting and dynamic person. I am not suggesting to change who you are completely but become better version of yourself by being a flexible person. Never pretend to be someone you are uncomfortable portraying, just to please or impress him, it will come across unnatural and put him off. If you have to pretend at all, be vague and imply things indirectly; as it will be a challenge to maintain characteristics out of your comfort zone. You are capable of displaying many characters that are, in fact, part of your inner being. This is the essence of freedom, ‘to be flexible both in your body and soul’; you may choose to omit already embodied characters within you, depending on your circumstances.

If you have a firmly established personality and have a strong sense of identity, this book will allow you to learn about and highlight the desirable traits of your character and hide the undesirable ones. You will learn about the type of men who could potentially be drawn to your personality. It would be naive to believe that if he is meant for you, then he will tolerate your negative traits from the onset. Let him fall in love with your attractive qualities before showing him the negative ones. Someone who is completely happy with the way their life is going is less likely to fall in love. You can hone in on the feelings of discontentment that he harbours deep inside his soul. These may consist of feelings of unhappiness, inadequacy, lack of adventure, unrealized dreams or boredom with life. You have the capacity to fill this space with thoughts of you by becoming the answer to his prayers or by distracting him from whatever pain he may be experiencing.